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WORK VS SUPER MOM

The Kids
Spending time with these two is worth more than gold. But it´s no secret that I sometimes miss my old job, my colleagues and wearing high heels.

I´d be lying if I claimed that the past six months hadn´t been busy. Last summer the kids and I said goodbye to our Copenhagen apartment (after practically giving away the interior of a complete home) to move back to Tenerife. Since then it´s been work, family and getting our feet firmly back on spanish ground.
I´ve lost a dear family member and seen another battle (and win!) the same disease. Cancer is a bitch.
Since I stopped working last month it seems I´ve had more between my hands than ever. More to do that is – not more to spend. When people asked me what I would do with my free time after I´d stop working, I said ”Read a book or three before looking for a new job”. I also wanted to get really fit, learn how to play the piano, start my own thing on the web and redecorate our house (to fit in our family of four in a 2–bedroom, 72 square meters house in the mountains, spending nothing or very little on it).
So far I´ve read one book, learned how to play Mike Oldfields ”The top of the morning” on piano, learned a lot about how to start your own web (and bought a domain. I feel like a pro!), worked out every other day and… well, the redecoration must wait… And, of course, still looking after the cat, the hens, the garden and picking up the kids every day from school at 1.30 pm to share a hot meal for lunch before taking them to sport, music etc.. But hey, it´s nice to be busy!

We have decided that I shouln´t go back to work straight away. How can I? The time we have gained is too precious to exchange for an extra salary. Jeezuz, how do other families manage? Well, I do remember how it was to be working full time, seeing the kids only for a few hours after work before they had to go to sleep. And then being super-mom at the weekends. Now I´m super-mom every day. Plus I have time to run my own little projects. And it feels really good (even knowing that it will take some time before we can travel again)!

(Pssst: I´m not trying to say that it´s either “working mom” or “super mom”. I know you can be both at the same time! And sweet lord, I´m not trying to say it´s the right choice to be a stay-at-home mom, choosing time with the kids over money. That is my choice for the moment and may change in the future. Dot.)

(Dear Pomp de Lux, please make that sweater in a bigger size – it´s really nice!)

 

WE ARE FAMILY

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Nerel: Decathlon (t-shirt), Pomp de Lux (shorts), ANGULUS (sandals) – Isabella: H&M (dress), ANGULUS (sandals) – Line Karen: Asos (dress), Clarks (sandals), El Caballo (sunglasses) – Juan: Decathlon (t-shirt), RipCurl (bag), Arnette (sunglasses), I haven´t got a clue (shorts ands shoes)

The primary reason for our return to Tenerife is family. Our small family. We are just” the 4 of us as the closest family-member live 2000 km away on the Spanish north coast of Asturias. The last 3 years in Denmark has been wonderful. And tough. I’ve been close to my own family and friends, and it has really been great but being alone with two kids (and a study and a full-time job) is really exhausting. Daily life sums up to getting up early, preparing lunchboxes, cooking, setting the table, washing the dishes, grocery-shopping, helping with homework, filling the bath, washing the kids´ hair (easy), combing the kids´ hair (impossible), bills, work, study, vacuuming …. And sometimes a quick family visit. But I felt that there was almost no time to see family or friends. Close to impossible because when you are at home at 17 p.m. and the kids go to bed before 21 p.m. it gives you just 4 hours to fit in 90% of the above mentioned AND leave time to just be together. Quality time. The economy was not something to boast about   there is not much profit from one income when an apartment in expensive Copenhagen, car insurances, mobiles, internet, clothing, food etc. has been paid. I needed a vacation. Mentally and physically.

Now the tune has changed. I´m working less hours and although my working hours are much more intensive than in the office I enjoy being able to immerse myself in what I do and know that when I´ve finished I can (in good conscience) be with the kids and their father. There is actually another person who also cook, wash up and pours me a glass of red wine. Their father (or google) steps in when I have forgotten how it to divide 17.734.972,42 with 364,50. There is time for a dip in the pool or the sea. Every day. And then we just round it off with a walk into the sunset or a trip to the skate-park (Juan and I are ok, Nerel ,10, has eagerly started to learn and little sister Isabella is just waiting for us to get her a pink skateboard before she will join us) followed by a cold beer on a cliff edge to the sound of ocean waves and the warmth of the last sunrays. And I am sleeping next to the man I love. Every night. And we enjoy our children. Together.  Does that sound romantic? Yep, it is. I´m becomming completely balanced mentally and physically.

DA:

Den primære årsag til vores tilbagevenden til Tenerife er familien. Den lille familie. For vi er “bare” os 4. Nærmeste familie bor 2000 km væk på den spanske nordkyst i Asturien. De sidste 3 år i Danmark har været skønne. Og hårde. Jeg har været tæt på min egen familie og venner, og det har virkelig været fantastisk – men at være alene med 2 børn (og et studie og et fuldtidsjob) er virkelig udmattende. Hverdagen går op i vækkeure, der ringer for tidligt, madpakker, lave mad, dække bord, vaske op, købe ind, hjælpe med lektier, fylde badekarret, vaske hår på ungerne (nemt), rede hår på ungerne (umuligt), regninger, arbejde, studere, støvsuge…. Og ind imellem et lille familie- eller venne-besøg. Men jeg følte nærmest ikke, at der var tid til at se andre. I hverdagen nærmest umuligt, for når man er hjemme kl 17 og ungerne skal i seng inden 21, giver det bare 4 timer, hvor 90% af ovenstående skal klemmes ind. Økonomien var ikke noget at råbe hurra for –  der er ikke meget overskud fra 1 indkomst, når lejlighed i dyre København, bil, forsikringerne, mobil, licens, internet, mad, tøj mm. er betalt. Jeg trængte til ferie. Mentalt og fysisk.

Nu er der andre boller på suppen. Jeg er gået ned i tid, og selv om arbejdstimerne er meget mere intensive end på kontoret, nyder jeg at kunne fordybe mig og vide, at når jeg har fri kan jeg med god samvittighed være sammen med ungerne og deres far. Der er rent faktisk en anden person, der også laver mad, vasker op – og skænker mig et godt glas rødvin ind imellem. Far (eller google)træder til, når mor har glemt hvordan det lige er man dividerer syttenmillionertrehundresyvogtredivetusindfemhundredesyvogfyrre-komma-fireogtredive med toogfyrreogenhalv. Der er tid til en dukkert i poolen eller havet. Hver dag. Og så runder vi lige af med en gåtur i solnedgangen eller en tur ud og skate (både far og mor er ganske habile, Nerel på 10 år er ivrigt i gang med at lære – og lillesøster Isabella venter lige på at vi får købt et pink skateboard inden hun vil i gang) – efterfulgt af en kold øl på en klippekant til lyden af havets brusen og varmen fra dagens sidste solstråler. Og jeg sover ved siden af manden jeg elsker. Hver nat. Og vi nyder vores børn. Sammen. Lyder det romantisk? Jeps, det er det også. Jeg er godt i gang med at blive fuldstændig afbalanceret – mentalt og fysisk.

Back to life

Efter en lang og dejlig sommer med begrænsede muligheder for stor-blogging, har jeg glædet mig vildt til at komme tilbage til bloggen og JER! Til min egen store overraskelse er der oven-i-købet kommet forespørgsler på, om jeg ikke snart kommer med nogle flere indlæg og gerne på engelsk også. Dejligt, det kan man jo kun blive glad over! Og jo, selvfølgelig vil jeg det. Jeg lægger blidt ud med lidt gensyn fra ferien.

Hvordan var jeres sommer?

After a long and great summer I´m back at the blog. I´ve missed you! I´m starting out lightly with some pics from my holiday.

How was your summer?

På marked i Asturien (Nord-Spanien) i juni.
At a local market in Asturias (Northern Spain) in June.
På stranden på Tenerife i juli.
On the beach at Tenerife in July.
Solnedgang og iskold “sidra”. Behøver jeg at sige mere? Tenerife, august.
Sunset and chilled “sidra”, need I say more? Tenerife, August.
Med min søster inde og få lavet hendes første tusch!
With my sister getting her first tattoo!
Sandskulptur Festival på Ofelia Beach i København, august.
Sand Sculpture Festival at Ofelia Beach in Copenhagen, August.